Self-Centeredness

I was told I was self-centered a week ago... not what I wanted to hear, nor what I expected to hear.  Follow me on this, though.  People who have been placed in unhealthy situations naturally develop insecurity.  We are not comfortable with insecurity so we try to make sure we are in situations we can control or at the very least know what is going to happen (and know it ahead of time) so that we feel... secure.  We do this to settle any fear or distrust that a given situation may bring.  By doing this we become centered on self.  Once explained to me that way, I AM self-centered... I do exactly what I stated above.  Now that I am aware of the issue, the healing begins ... I need to seek the Lord to settle the fear and distrust issues I have in order that I may live life in the fullness He intended for me - as a secure person in Him!  Whew.... such a work in process.  :)